how change happens
I see change happening for clients in terms of exploring family of origin issues, shifting attachment style, and addressing trauma.
Family of origin issues helps us understand unconscious patterns of thinking, behavior, and beliefs about ourselves and others which keep us being who we want to be. Each family negotiates autonomy vs dependence and closeness vs distance differently and that difference can impact your current functioning in many aspects of your life. Coping mechanisms can include feeling anxious, depressed, irritable, and sad, as well as substance use, and compulsive behaviors (food, sex, shopping, gambling, excessive work, and screen time). By understanding where we come from, we can work toward developing more adaptive coping mechanisms and create new ways to be in our lives.
Attachment style is a coping mechanism which is developed as children to get their needs met from their caregivers. Attachment styles affect our relationships at every stage of life in all types of relationships (familial, intimate, parental, vocational, and friendships). Anxious or avoidant, both can interfere with feeling safe in the world and ability to connect with others. Anxious attachment is defined by preoccupation with relationships, anger and despair, self-doubt, and strenuously attempting to get love and support from others. Avoidant attachment is defined by dismissing the importance of relationships, fear and shame and humiliation, denying vulnerability, and avoiding closeness with others. We will work together to shift attachment styles to become more trusting of yourself and others, and begin to feel safe in the world.
Trauma can be acute (single incident) or chronic (over a duration of time), interpersonal (parents, partners), active combat, natural disaster, attachment/developmental, at any life stage, and can negatively impact functioning, self-esteem, intimacy, and ability to connect with others. Attachment/developmental trauma is a type of complex (chronic) trauma which occurs in childhood as a result of caregivers unable to meet the child's needs due to substance use, mental health issues, incarceration, and economic issues. Attachment/developmental trauma is linked to deficits in self-concept, memory, concentration, emotional and executive control. I will provide a safe environment where we can collaboratively work on processing and integrating traumatic experiences and memories.
Family of origin issues helps us understand unconscious patterns of thinking, behavior, and beliefs about ourselves and others which keep us being who we want to be. Each family negotiates autonomy vs dependence and closeness vs distance differently and that difference can impact your current functioning in many aspects of your life. Coping mechanisms can include feeling anxious, depressed, irritable, and sad, as well as substance use, and compulsive behaviors (food, sex, shopping, gambling, excessive work, and screen time). By understanding where we come from, we can work toward developing more adaptive coping mechanisms and create new ways to be in our lives.
Attachment style is a coping mechanism which is developed as children to get their needs met from their caregivers. Attachment styles affect our relationships at every stage of life in all types of relationships (familial, intimate, parental, vocational, and friendships). Anxious or avoidant, both can interfere with feeling safe in the world and ability to connect with others. Anxious attachment is defined by preoccupation with relationships, anger and despair, self-doubt, and strenuously attempting to get love and support from others. Avoidant attachment is defined by dismissing the importance of relationships, fear and shame and humiliation, denying vulnerability, and avoiding closeness with others. We will work together to shift attachment styles to become more trusting of yourself and others, and begin to feel safe in the world.
Trauma can be acute (single incident) or chronic (over a duration of time), interpersonal (parents, partners), active combat, natural disaster, attachment/developmental, at any life stage, and can negatively impact functioning, self-esteem, intimacy, and ability to connect with others. Attachment/developmental trauma is a type of complex (chronic) trauma which occurs in childhood as a result of caregivers unable to meet the child's needs due to substance use, mental health issues, incarceration, and economic issues. Attachment/developmental trauma is linked to deficits in self-concept, memory, concentration, emotional and executive control. I will provide a safe environment where we can collaboratively work on processing and integrating traumatic experiences and memories.
Boundaries Group / Winter -2/16/2020-4/5/2020
Boundaries are important to our personhood because they help us define who we are, what we need and don’t need, who we want to spend time with, and how we want to spend that time. When we feel that we’re not meeting our needs and meeting other people‘s needs instead, there tends to be imbalance in our lives. When we know who we are and what we need, we can share that with the people around us. When the way we feel on the inside does not match how we present ourselves publicly, we can end up with emotional, mental, and physical struggles/problems.
Often times, we grow up in families where there were rigid boundaries/rules, or there were no boundaries/no rules. I am here to help you find your equilibrium, so that you can feel like yourself around people you care about the most.
In a supportive and welcoming group, I will help you define who you are and what matters most to you. We will explore what boundaries look like, how they function in our lives, and how to maintain boundaries with the people around us. We strive to find a balance between autonomy and connection.
BOUNDARIES group will be led by Sarah Hackett, AMFT and will gather for eight Sundays 4:00-5:30pm, beginning February 16, 2020 -April 5, 2020. Sessions $50 each/ $400 total. Eight spaces available. Early registration price reduction from $400 to $350.
For additional information and to register, please contact Sarah Hackett, AMFT at 818-457-1577 or [email protected].
Boundaries are important to our personhood because they help us define who we are, what we need and don’t need, who we want to spend time with, and how we want to spend that time. When we feel that we’re not meeting our needs and meeting other people‘s needs instead, there tends to be imbalance in our lives. When we know who we are and what we need, we can share that with the people around us. When the way we feel on the inside does not match how we present ourselves publicly, we can end up with emotional, mental, and physical struggles/problems.
Often times, we grow up in families where there were rigid boundaries/rules, or there were no boundaries/no rules. I am here to help you find your equilibrium, so that you can feel like yourself around people you care about the most.
In a supportive and welcoming group, I will help you define who you are and what matters most to you. We will explore what boundaries look like, how they function in our lives, and how to maintain boundaries with the people around us. We strive to find a balance between autonomy and connection.
BOUNDARIES group will be led by Sarah Hackett, AMFT and will gather for eight Sundays 4:00-5:30pm, beginning February 16, 2020 -April 5, 2020. Sessions $50 each/ $400 total. Eight spaces available. Early registration price reduction from $400 to $350.
For additional information and to register, please contact Sarah Hackett, AMFT at 818-457-1577 or [email protected].
Sarah Hackett, Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (109094), supervised by Jennifer Kirk Jones (82230)
3611 Seneca Ave. Los Angeles, CA 90039
3611 Seneca Ave. Los Angeles, CA 90039